By: Hope Wilkos, Writer
The fan base is quickly growing for the show that has rounded out Monday night television. The Bachelorette has become the main topic of conversation for both men and women come Tuesday morning.
Who will JoJo Fletcher choose to be her knight in shining armor? She has a variety of suitors but the ‘bad boys’ seem to stand out this season. Chad is the ‘violent’ and ‘devious’ bad boy. Jordan is the ‘cheating’ bad boy. Daniel is the ‘partying’ bad boy. Most women can easily relate to these type of men. More than once, we seem to choose the bad boy over the sincere gentleman who would walk the ends of the earth for us.
Before it becomes too hot and heavy, there are red flags that are easily identified if you know exactly what to look for. BeenVerified is the leading source of online background checks and helps people discover, understand and use public data in their everyday lives. BeenVerified assists daters and online daters by offering background checks on potential suitors. Find out if your date has been arrested, married, carries a gun, has a history of domestic abuse and more.
How can you spot the ‘cheating’ bad boy? If your lover has started getting moody and picking fights for no reason or suddenly being overly sweet to you, this may be a red flag. If you start to notice non-typical behavior, then your hunch may be right on. Does his phone ring and he quickly answers and disappears? Does he have “new friends” at work and/or more work responsibilities? Is he secretive with his technology? These are all signs you may be with a cheater. While these aren’t foolproof signs of cheating, a combination of them may point to the fact you’re not his one and only. The best advice is to follow your gut instinct and if you feel there’s something going on, it may be time to confront him.
How can you spot the ‘hot head’ bad boy? Is there a good deal of concern that your boyfriend is a hot head with anger management issues? Do you get the brunt of his manic anger? Ask yourself these questions—is he criticizing, belittling, and putting you down? Does he lack patience? Is he irritable, short tempered and blame everyone and everything else? Does he fly off the handle at the smallest thing? Do you feel like you’re living with Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde? No one deserves to be treated badly because of someone else’s anger issues. Constant put downs are bad for you all around and continually walking on eggshells around this person will eventually become a burden. Do yourself a favor and move on!
How can you spot the ‘non-committal’ bad boy? Just when you’re genuinely looking for Mr. Right and a committed partner, there’s nothing worse than wasting your time with someone who is simply looking for Miss Right Now. If you find yourself debating whether the person you’re dating is the non-committal type, ask yourself these questions—does he have a history of being non-committal? Are the people he hangs out with non-committal types? Are there large gaps in-between the times you communicate? Does he spend most of the time talking about himself and little time asking you questions and finding out more about you? Does he talk about the future and the things he wants to do but none of it involves you? If you answered yes to most of these questions, you likely have a non-committal type on your hands and there’s not much you can do to change him. Yes, some people can change, but if he’s not making the move to progress your relationship, you’re not the one who’s going to change him into a committing man.
There is nothing worse than the ‘self-loving’ bad boy. There’s a thin line between a big ego and clear self-confidence. At first it may play out like he’s just confident and has a healthy self-esteem, but the farther you go into the relationship, the more you realize he loves himself way more than he loves you. Does he talk about himself constantly? Does he look out for himself first? Does he look to you for an added ego boost? Does he compare himself to other people? Does he not seem present when you’re together? If you answered yes to even a few of these questions, you’re most likely dating an ego-maniac. A self-loving bad boy who’s not worth your time or attention. And trust us, he wants your attention and everyone else’s.
Lastly, what about that ‘partying’ bad boy? Dating the “life of the party” is fun for a very short amount of time. If the guy you’re dating is more interested in drinking and the next night out, then you’re dating a guy who’s not ready for a serious relationship. We hate to break it to you, but he’s a partying bad boy. If he’s in his early 20’s, this isn’t out of the question and better he get it out of his system now. But if he’s edging towards 30 or in his 30’s, then buyer beware—your man is living a prolonged adolescence. It might be fun for a few dates, but this is most likely not what you had in mind when looking for a partner. Save yourself and run before you invest any more time in a relationship based on partying.
This is great advice by Justin Lavelle, Communications Director at Beenverified (http://www.beenverified.com), your go to source to check whether your new online or in person date is who they say they are. Beenverified is a leading source of online background checks and contact information. BeenVerified allows individuals to find more information about people, phone numbers, email addresses, property records and criminal records in a way that’s fast, easy and affordable.
